On today's Monday Matters we will explore Your Sphere of Influence. The people in your life with either hinder you or help you get to the next level. It is very important that you recognize who is for you and who is against you. It is even more important for you to rid yourself of toxic relationships and take on non-toxic ones for your betterment and growth.
Before we get into the heart of this message, let's take a quick moment to define our terms: sphere and influence.
Encarta's English Dictionary
Sphere:
field of knowledge or activity: a field of knowledge, interest, or activity.
area of influence: an area of control or influence.
group in society: a level or group within a society.
Influence:
effect on something: the effect of something on a person, thing, or event.
power to sway: the power that somebody has to affect other people's thinking or actions by means of argument, example, or force of personality.
Your sphere of influence consists of two components:
Those people who influence your life.
Those whose lives you influence.
One of my closest friends came across this revelation that changed both of our thinking as it relates to our sphere of influence. That revelation is, "You will either effect people, or you will infect them."
Think about the two components of influences in your life and ask yourself:
Are these people infecting me or effecting me?
Am I infecting or effecting the people I'm around?
Infections causes emotional disease and it is rotten to the relationship. An infected relationship cannot grow and flourish and it causes both parties involved to be in one of two places in their lives: 1) stagnant, or 2) dying.
Effected relationships, however, brings life and empowerment. An effected relationship will not let you become stagnant and die. Instead, the influences in an effected relationship grabs you by the hand and pull you up, then catapult you to your next level -- i.e. your destiny.
How to distinguish between infected or effected relationships.
If you dread when a person comes around you, they are an infection.
If you feel drained when a person leaves your presence, they are an infection.
If you find yourself feeling condemned because of a relationship, it is an infection.
If your spirit gets excited when a person comes around, they are effectors.
If you are challenged or impacted in a positive way by that person's life, they are effectors.
If you find yourself wanting to soak up all that person's wisdom and knowledge, they are effectors.
Again, think about both components of your sphere of influence. Are you dying as a result of it, or are you being challenged and pushed to the next level? Are you killing people in your life, or are you pushing them to their destiny? Remember, you need relationships to survive!
Deaquelynn Williams
(205) 566-3132
Owner & Life Coach
www.QuelynnInc.com www.Twitter.com/QuelynnInc "Catapulting women to their wealthy place..."
Posted By: The SISTAHS Ministry
Monday, December 15th 2008 at 9:08AM
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