Barack and Michelle Obama are such a beautiful couple. As I watched the recap of their first dance at the Neighborhood Ball, I couldn't help but be mesmerized. Their love for each other is so genuine. It shows in how they hold hands, how they look into each other's eyes, and how they love their children.
Michelle Obama sacrificed so much so that her husband could realize his destiny as the first African-American President. Goals like his take a team; President Obama could not have accomplished what he did without the love and support of his beloved. Who do you think encouraged him when he felt there was no hope? Who do you think prayed for grace for his weaknesses; weaknesses that probably no one else knew he had? A wife's opportunity to encourage and work along her husband is such a delight, and many times the only one who knows you're at work is your husband. As long as you're married to a man that can love and appreciate you back, it doesn't matter if the world knows you're on the job or not.
The focus on this first couple in the media just shows us how much America needs role models in marriage. With so many high profile Christian couples getting divorced in 2007, the body of Christ has almost been at a loss for positive married couples in the media.
We did a segment on the Christian Wives Club Show a few weeks ago, called Why Can't My Marriage Be Like Hers? The objective of the show was to identify marriages that we admired. Marriage has many facets, and a couple can spend the rest of their lives mastering one facet, let alone them all. So the members tried to identify married couples that had excelled at: communication, acting as one, passion, sharing their faith, and mutual respect. It was a great time to share, and to celebrate each other, not just focus on ourselves.
I say all this to say, that as a wife-in-waiting, it's important to have married couples as friends and associates. If you want to have success in your future marriage, you have to learn how successful married people operate. Certain ways and habits can be introduced in a class or a seminar, but they have to be learned by watching people live them every day. To discuss 'submitting to your husband" is one thing. To see it in operation and learn when it's appropriate is another.
Maybe you won't be able to attend the next Wives Fellowship at your church, but you are always welcome to listen to my show each Sunday at 9:00pm EST. And I know there has to be a wife in your circle who you could spend more time with. How do I know? Because God always supplies what we need, when we need it. If you need to learn how to hold your tongue, God's got a living example somewhere for you to learn from. If you need to learn how to serve, and not just think of yourself, God's got someone for that too! Don't shy away from marriage conversations, even if you feel you have nothing to contribute. Marriage is a mindset, and the more you are exposed to that mindset, the more prepared you will be when it's your time to get married.
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Posted By: The SISTAHS Ministry
Wednesday, January 28th 2009 at 2:53PM
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