I have a two year old daughter, who is learning and growing so fast. It seems like every day she picks up on something else. She talks in complete sentences now, and lets us know when she'd like to eat, what she'd like to eat, and what she'd like to watch on TV when she's eating. She also can tell us when she's hurt. She'll say "Owee Mommy. Owee", and point to where she's scraped her knee or hand. But if I reach to touch it, she'll pull her hand away fast. "Don't touch, Mommy," she'll instruct me. "It hurts."
This reminds me of when we get hurt in our romantic relationships. Many of us date and have relationships with men, and get hurt because he lied to us, or he wasn't really into us. He wasted our time dating us knowing full well he didn't want to marry us. He was with us, and seeing his ex-girlfriend too. He stole our money. He separated us from our family and then neglected us. We encouraged him and support his dreams, and then when he was successful, he decided we weren't good enough for him.
It only takes one good hurt, one real deep heart "owee", to convince us never to love again. And it's the funniest thing. When we're hurt, we can let other people know we've been hurt. But when they reach out to help us heal, the fear of them not helping the pain makes us pull away. We tell people and maybe even our Father, "Don't touch. Please don't try to help me get over this pain. It hurts too bad already and you helping me may make it worse. I don't want to meet anyone new. I don't want to pray about it. Just leave me alone."
Yet God, our Father, is a healer of broken hearts. He mends our hearts better than anyone else because he made those hearts in the first place. He made us to love and to care. When our broken hearts hinder us from doing what He created us to do, He wants to fix it. He wants to make the pain stop. He wants us to return to the purpose He gave us, with a man that won't hurt us the way the others have.
If you're hurting today, because someone has hurt you, you don't have to live with that pain anymore. You weren't made to be isolated. You were made to enjoy true love, a love God can teach you and then you can experience with the man God will send you. Do you really want to live your entire life without anyone loving you the way you deserve? That's not your destiny. God wants to heal your broken heart, and He's waiting with his special Neosporin, the balm of Gilead, that will remove all the pain and make you whole again.
When people hurt us, we learn how to handle our relationships with more wisdom. Receive your healing, learn from your past relationships, and move forward so that you can enjoy life again.
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Posted By: The SISTAHS Ministry
Wednesday, February 25th 2009 at 11:25AM
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