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7 Ways To Get Your Parent Or An Adult To Listen To You
by author Rachel Berry


In the book A Slip In The Right Direction by author Rachel Berry the main character 14-year-old Clifton Henderson aka Slip uses what he calls Slip-o-logy to get his way. Hereís a little slip-o-logy you can use to make sure you can communicate effectively with an adult or parent:
1. Since workings adults usually tend to be tired after dinner and right before bed, itís possible that when holding a conversation with them or wanting to be heard about a problem or your day theyíre not at their highest capacity for listening. Perhaps it would be best if youíd let them know first that you need to talk to them and ask when would be the best time to have their complete attention. As long as itís not an emergency, setting a day and time to be heard could work in your favor, as adults like to keep their promises. Keep in mind however, that just like you parents and adults have a lot going on in their life and sometimes good intentions turn into bad timing. Allow for a few changes when needed. This proves youíre growing up and shows the adult or parent that you love you understand that life happens.


If being heard is an immediate situation, for whatever reason, let the adult or parent know that you need them to hear you out now and that if it wasnít an emergency youíd wait until another time. Respectfully ask to be allowed to finish your thoughts first before they cut in or offer advice. Take a minute to focus on what it is you need and want to say so that you donít take up any unnecessary time or lose your train-of-thought. Getting right to the point will relieve your stress too and youíll usually feel better once itís off your chest.
2. Make sure that when you approach your parent or an adult to talk that you are always respectful, remember your manners. Grown-ups are turned off by an attitude or someone having a smart mouth. If youíre angry about something calm down first as much as possible before you try to speak, this will allow you to express yourself better and give you a better chance at being heard. You are entitled to your feelings and opinions but self-control is a big part of growing up and coming-of-age.

3. Make sure that when you approach your parent or an adult to talk that you do it in a place with no distractions. Always wait until company leaves before approaching your parent or an adult to talk. Even if your best friend is over, itís best to wait until they leave. Grown-ups like privacy too. A television playing or music on can distract both of you also. Try not to interrupt your parent or the adult if you know their watching their favorite program or listening to their favorite song. Remember being considerate of others is also a big part of growing up.


If you need to speak to them during these times let them know that you have something very important for him or her to hear as soon as the show or song goes off. Most times a parent or adult will be so concerned by what you want theyíll turn of the distraction right away, then, the opportunity to speak your mind is yours. After all, parents and concerned adults really do want to hear you out and know whatís on your mind.
4. When people are in pain, angry, stressed, or depressed they are not at their best and their listening ears are not on. If you encounter this situation when you need to be heard by your parent or an adult, find out first if you can be of any aid in making them feel better. Sometimes grown-ups need attention and some TLC too. A few minutes of your time listening to them could lead to them calming down, you being of help to someone else, and perhaps getting their undivided attention later because of your unselfish consideration. Helping someone else always pays off big time!

5. Besides being heard, nothing else feels better than being able to express exactly what your thoughts are. Write down your thoughts before you approach your parent or the adult you need to talk to. Having a clear idea of what you need and want to say helps you better express yourself and gets your thoughts relayed. Sometimes youíll even find that just writing your thoughts down and looking them over can either help solve your situation or sometimes help you realize things arenít as urgent or as bad as they seem. At any rate feel comfortable taking your notes with you when you approach your parent or adult you wish to speak with, this way you donít forget anything you need to say or say anything you havenít thought out at first.


Have you ever thought about keeping a journal? Itís a good way to keep track of your thoughts and feelings.
6. When is the last time you told your parent or the special adult in your life how you feel about them? Itís never corny or not cool to tell someone you care about how you feel. In fact, itís just the opposite. Life isnít promised to any of us no matter how young or old we are. Make each day the best day in your life and that of someone you love by telling them. Most times parents and adults need and want to hear your feelings about them and it makes them happy when you do. And guess what? When theyíre happy theyíre more open to hearing you express yourself about things on your mind.

7. Hereís an idea, how about inviting your parent or the adult in your life on a date? Spending time together and doing something you both like and enjoy not only allows you to get to know each better but parents and adults love it when you want to spend time with them. Adults feel neglected too sometimes and often they donít know how to approach you to tell you so. Never take it for granted that a parent or adult in your life already knows, or should know whatís going on in your thoughts or in your life outside of home for that matter.


In the story A Slip In The Right Direction Slipís parents knew that the gangs existed in their hometown but they didnít really know how much he feared being around them and how much he came in contact with them at school and in the streets. Also, once Slip and his dad started to spend more time together, his father learned to listen to him more. This made Slip feel good and he realized that just like him his parents were imperfect too.

Also, itís a known fact and an unfortunate reality that not all youth have an adult or parent willing to listen to them even when they try the above mentioned tips. If this is your case, donít be discouraged.


If you take time to think about it perhaps thereís another positive adult such as a relative, neighbor, teacher, pastor, parent of a friend, or family friend that you feel comfortable talking to. Never give up looking for your support system and remember to lend a listening ear to someone younger than you. Little people need love too.

Iím always open to hearing from you, so drop me a line at: admin@thecliftonhendersonseries.com


Remember if you have some ideas that have worked for you itís slip-tas-tic that you share your thoughts with other Clifton Henderson fans.


So, what other things do you feel you can do to get your parent or an adult to listen to you? What is it that you really need to talk about, and with whom do you need to discuss it with? Use a little slip-o-logy and go for it!


Ľ Meet author Rachel Berry
Rachel Berry is a word-fairy that enjoys the craft of words that create and inspire life and people. As an author & poet Rachel feels blessed to have the creative opportunity of expression. Berry is also a motivational speaker, mentor, community leader, independent book publisher, entrepreneur, columnist for SORMAG, and host of From The Heart & Soul show on Blog Talk Radio.

She currently resides in Virginia with her husband, adult children, grandchildren, and parents. Rachel puts family first and enjoys life in Virginia. When she's not writing, she also enjoys reading, dining out, traveling, and watching movies. She accredits her gain in blessings and achievements to her relationship and guidance from her creator, association with great women, positive family members, loyal friends, the upbringing of an amazing woman-her mother, and the support and love of her husband and children.

Connect with Rachel Berry, CEO Kimathi Enterprises & Publishing Company
http://www.RachelBerry.webs.com
http://www.BlogTalkRadio.com/Lady-Serenity
http://www.google.com/profiles/AuthorRachelBerry

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Wednesday, October 13th 2010 at 9:05AM
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